Aloha from NYC,
I’m not exactly sure what the statute of limitations is on using Aloha….but it sounds a lot more exciting then just hello;) Either way, GOOD MORNING! I am excited and a tad overwhelmed that my radio career begins today! Just returning home from my stay in Hawaii, I have unpacked, organized, welcomed Cooper (my baby dog) back into my life, and things are back to usual…. except, I was wide awake all night, I stopped looking at the clock at 4am. Ugh. Today’s radio show set me off into thinking of a million things I need to follow up on, do, and remember, oh and I had to move my car this morning. I am usually a good sleeper so needless to say I’m a bit wound up this am.
As adults, most of us are lucky enough to be able to work these issues out, we can write lists, sleep with blinders, meditate, practice yoga etc. Most children are not taught how to manage stress. Without realizing many parents keep their managing stress a secret, they want their children to have continuous smooth sailing. I see children get the raw end of the deal when parents have a day that isn’t working and they are the ones who are forced to feel that negative energy. Whether your child is verbal or non-verbal speak with them. It actually hurts me when I am out and about and I hear children being spoken at. In their little lives they learn by actions. Ask yourself ,or someone you love (who won’t bite your head off) to think about what positive learning experience is a child l receiving when an adults stressful day ends up in their lap.
If a child knows what is going on the night or morning before (depending on the child) they can learn so much. Communication, daily expectations, and managing time, are three major lessons. Keep a notebook or a list on the refrigerator, of a schedule or to do list. This will help your day tremendously, but also will lay out a plan for your child to understand, whether you think they do or not, it’s good communication process. It may take a long time to begin this process, but like any good habit, it takes a bit to make a regular practice. I like to make three sections, and keep it simple. I use stars, in order of importance. You should include all daily activities and tasks, even ones while your child is in school. At the end of the day there is nothing better then looking at a crossed off list, share this with your child! Dance in celebration, sing a “I did it” song!
We all have special needs, luckily we have tools to help us through our tangled days. A child with special needs is sometimes referred to as “being in their own world,” well who isn’t in their own wold? Try driving down Flatbush Avenue in Brooklyn, the majority of people are in their own worlds. My overall advise for drivers of Flatbush and parents? SLowwwwwww down….
Love and light to you all,
P.S. I’ll meet you on the radio later!