No really, proving that even the most obnoxious comment can be learned from. Let us digress for a moment and think of what a tree does…
- it grows
- it provides home and shelter
- gives shade
- rooted in the earth
- provides beauty
- does not complain
- open to abuse and negativity
- can be decorated for holidays
- it breathes in carbon dioxide
- gives out oxygen
The more I think of this and write about it, the more obvious it is that WE as human beings are trees. Just by being alive we are vulnerable, we cannot control anything. We can learn from everything that abuses us, or attempts to break our branches. We grow, we can be ugly or blossom beautifully, we can be grounded, (not reaching for anything) if we work hard to grow, beautiful things will be attracted to us, and we will be able to provide.
Many parents I work with question “why was I given this child?” in many different ways. Many other parents I work with are able to see the blessing their children they are. I have heard “I hate autism,” “I wish my kid was just normal,” “when will he snap out of it?” When you plant a negativity seed, it will grow if you feed it, and you will be an ugly wilting tree. In those moments of weakness when you begin questioning “why this, why that…?” ask yourself which tree you want to invest time in growing. You should allow yourself all the negative thoughts you want. By giving yourself rules about negativity will help you avoid becoming insane.
- Don’t physically act on it
- Allow yourself a set time to feel negative
- Find a healthy way to stop (journal, meditation, mantra, be creative)
Trees cannot hide, you cannot hide, trees must stand tall, you must stand tall and be proud, trees do not want to be cut down, you cannot run away from your child.
In the meantime as you continue to work on yourself and keep your branches “growing” and keep yourself learning about yourself, your child is watching you, they are feeling your growth. You will attract other people who are growing as you are. The best way to live is to have a community of like-minded people who make conscious decisions and who aren’t afraid to question everything. They will be open to listen with an open heart.
I went to Storm King Art Center this past fall. I saw the most magnificent trees ever. This is an outdoor museum with colossal sized sculptures. I came up with a theory that these were the best trees growing anywhere because of the beautiful art that is surrounded by them. Surround yourself with beautiful people, beautiful ideas and objects, create the life you can be excited and joyous about. Your children can only benefit from the beauty you provide for them….
Namaste, Shane, founder of Your Beautiful Child