Joy a feeling of great pleasure and happiness.
What brought you joy before having your child? Several parents I work with have difficulty with this question. “It’s hard to remember,” and “sleeping,” were the most popular answers. I see parents being run down, overwhelmed and turning to outside pleasers to feel good. Food, shopping and having a glass of wine. While I know these activities are socially acceptable ways of relaxing and having fun… they do not feed the soul, which means they are short lived joy.
Waiting behind two Moms in a discount store. It was close to the time to go pick up their children from school. It was a medium sized line, and they were “high” on the bargains they had found. As the line got closer to their turn, they began taking turns to go get one more thing, run away and come back with a new score. Along with the time crunch of paying and having enough time to get their kids. I felt the energy rising. At one point, the woman who was on the line, began grabbing things nearby looking at them, tossing them in her wagon, then taking them out, leaving some… Then she grabbed some chocolate covered almonds and went at it. The friend came back and they both began eating their eatable find until it was their turn. WHEW!
I knew these feelings, I know these feelings, and I am aware of the compulsive shopping and food challenges. There are many false feelings of fulfillment, joy, excitement, deserving,
“Outer joy is more like excitement, involving a quick flash of pleasure. It stems from either thrill or some animated feeling.” –WWW.PRAJNAYOGA.NET This is an exact description of the ladies in from of me. The truth is, I can see this outter joy, because I spend many years only knowing of this joy.
Inner joy suggests contentment, contentment that is more refined than the quick pulse of pleasure.
What are the benefits of this inner joy? Pshhht! Many! Here are a few:
- Improving heart health, less risk of heart disease
- Better overall health, (both in individuals and communities, to include families)
- Positive thoughts flow
- Emotional vitality: a sense of enthusiasm, hopefulness,
Are any of these a priority for you? There is no Dr., no shooting, no amazing bottle of wine that will help you attain this inner joy. Here are a couple of practical and easy ways, to insert joy into your day. Tricking the body into joy is REAL, and it has actual impact on the brain.
- Start laughing, even if it feels weird
- Look in the mirror and smile
- Look in the mirror and make absolutely wacky faces (your kids or anyones kids will love it.)
Laura Kubzansky “State of mind = State of body”
What awareness does this blog bring you? Do you resonate with it? Have you witnessed it? Are you that shopper? Know this. You are not alone! I think we all have felt these shopping highs, purchasing impulsively or compulsively. We do live in an age where you can text someone hello, just as easy as you can buy airline tickets on our smartphones.. I hope your biggest take-away is awareness. Nothing has to change, nothing has to be done different, just an awareness of the activities we engage in. Your state of you mind correlates to the state of your body.